Is Your Spouse Having An Affair

Do you suspect that your spouse is cheating on you? A healthy marriage relationship is built on trust, and a cheating spouse destroys the trust that serves as the foundation for your union.

If you suspect that your spouse is cheating on you, your mind is probably filled with more questions than answers. Here are signs that your spouse may be cheating.

While these signs can be symptoms of issues other than infidelity, there is cause for concern if your spouse exhibits many of these characteristics. 

  • Your spouse seems bored with his job, hobbies, and life in general. 
  • Your spouse suddenly seems attracted to the concept of thrills and danger. 
  • You notice that the intimacy between you has decreased and sex is infrequent. 
  • Your spouse shows signs of low self-esteem. 
  • You find it extremely difficult to communicate because your spouse no longer open up to you.
  • If you mention infidelity, your spouse becomes defensive. 
  • Your spouse suddenly begins to show you more attention than usual. 
  • Your spouse is putting in longer hours at work. 
  • Your spouse is paying more attention to her appearance than usual. 
  • You notice your spouse is spending more money than usual and is secretive about his or her expenses. 
  • Family events, such as birthdays and holidays, no longer matter to your spouse.
  • You catch your spouse lying to you about different things. 
  • Your spouse suddenly disconnects from you when it comes to certain events you typically go to together.
  • Your spouse seems distant.  


What To Do If You Suspect Your Partner Is Cheating

If your spouse displays many of the signs listed above, first recognize that there may be other issues involved. It may be infidelity, or it may be something else altogether. It’s important to remain as calm as possible and refrain from jumping to conclusions. 

If it turns out that your spouse is cheating, these strategies may help you:

  1. Recognize that you’re not to blame. If your spouse chooses to meet their needs for physical and emotional intimacy outside of your marriage relationship, resist the urge to place the blame on yourself. 
  2. Know that infidelity may lead you back together again. Instead of giving up on the marriage, you may find that talking things out and getting to the root issue of the infidelity resolves the underlying problem that led to the cheating. While you may choose divorce in the end, reconciliation may still be possible. 
  3. Remember that you deserve happiness. When the bonds of marriage have been broken, rebuilding trust can be a challenge. But it can be done if both of you are willing to work at it and start over together. You are valuable, regardless of the outcome of your relationship. 
  4. Talk to your spouse. If you know with certainty that he or she is cheating, confront your spouse with what you have found. Listen to theirs point of view, and watch how they react. If your spouse seems truly sorry, you may be able to work things out. If they remain defiant, however, separation may be your only option.
  5. Seek help. Confide in friends that are usually upbeat and positive. Seek professional counseling. But whatever you do, avoid battling this alone. Draw upon the strength of the people that love you. 


Infidelity can alter the course of your life in ways that may surprise you. It may be the end of the road for your relationship. Sometimes, however, infidelity is the catalyst to repairing the things that are wrong in your marriage and you may come through this with a stronger relationship than ever. 

No matter the outcome, however, there is hope. You can recover and live a life of happiness, as long as you refuse to give up and choose to affirm your right to the life you deserve. Keep in mind, we all have  been living in a matrix created by the cabal based on nothing but lies. All of the “love story” movies have created false illusions about marriage, sexually explicit movies, media, etc. have been used to destroy marriages and the family unit. They have done EVERYTHING to try to destroy us. You really have to do some deep soul searching and ask yourself, is the marriage worth repairing and can you really trust your spouse again or is the thought of the affair going to haunt you the rest of your life. You have lots of soul searching questions to ask yourself and heal before you can draw your conclusion. Most importantly, do what brings you happiness and fulfillment. Don’t let yourself fall into a depression, grief or low self-esteem. You must remember who you are, your value and your worth.